You want it to be absolutely perfect, to go according to plan and to be an unforgettable and enjoyable day for everyone. There is a good reason why planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things a person can do. Don’t worry though, because we’re going to give you some invaluable top tips to help you achieve wedding day bliss – it can happen, we promise! So long as you keep a few very important things in mind, planning your wedding doesn’t have to feel like a headache that lasts the duration of the engagement and it can actually be enjoyable at times (especially when it comes to the stag-do and the hen-night).
1. First and foremost, you have to consider your budget. Sit down with your fiancé or your mother/father/sister/friend or anyone else willing to tolerate your indecision or your terrible mathematical skill, and work out exactly how much money you have to spend and always, always keep that number in mind whenever you put down any deposits or commit to any purchases for the big day. Keep a note of all your spending and all potential spending. Buy a planner, and remember there is something perfect for every budget out there, you just have to know the right places to look and what to search for.
2. Depending on what kind person the bride-to-be is, either the venue or the wedding dress will feature next on the list. Whereas both of these things are important, without a venue there can be no wedding so we’re sorry ladies (or gentlemen, we’re not judgemental), the dress is going to have to wait. You may have had your heart set on that quaint little church at the bottom of your road or the nearest castle with a working banquet hall, but you have to be realistic. That’s not to say you won’t be able to afford these, just be aware that blowing your whole budget on the venue alone is not advisable. Shop around. Take recommendations from friends and family. You might be surprised what you find and end up preferring – and at half the price!
3. Ok, so now we can talk about the dress. Believe us when we say this, there is a wedding dress out there to suit and flatter all shapes and sizes whether you want to buy one from a department store, an independent retailer or right from the dress-maker. They all have their benefits and they can all be tailored to suit and fit you just a little bit better. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again – shop around! It may be tempting to go for the first beautiful dress you see, but there is every possibility that you can find something better for less.
4. Admittedly we should probably put deciding on rings before the dress, but for many, they seem to hold a similar level of importance. The rings formulate an important part of the ceremony. It can be incredibly romantic going with your partner to choose a ring for one another, too. Again, keep in mind your budget and get something that you know you are going to love for years and years and years to come because you’re probably going to be stuck with it for quite a while unless everything goes pear-shaped, but no one wants that to happen.
5. The first thing to do when deciding on a photographer is to see who and what your friends know. Usually friends of friends can wheedle special discounts, too, if their photographer happens to be quite a good friend. Otherwise, make sure you get a look at portfolios and previous work before marking them in your diary and crossing it off your list.
6. The guest list will either be a welcome relief or an even bigger headache. The bigger the wedding, the more people you have to accommodate and the more people you have to accommodate, the higher the overall cost. We know how special it might seem inviting your second cousin twice removed whom you haven’t seen for 10 years, but you will probably end up regretting it when your entire wedding eve is spent trying to remember people’s names, let alone thanking them for coming and catching up on their lives. It also means extra mouths to feed. Keep it as simple as you can where no offence will be caused for those who get wind of the fact they haven’t been invited.
7. Stationary and decorations provide yet another fun and creative wedding aspect that can break up the tedious jobs. This includes flowers at the church, table layout and decoration at lunch/dinner, the invitations, thank you notes and all the little details. You can match the colour schemes to the dress, the suits and the venue decorations if you want to. Some bits and pieces you can try your hand at making yourself, things like favours, invitations and place names. If you don’t have time to sit down and think about it, contact a professional, though the former often ends up being a lot cheaper! You can also rope your little sister into writing out a lot of the invitations to save you a bit of time and effort! Oh, and make sure invitations are sent out at least two months prior to the wedding or sooner if you know the specifics before then. That gives everyone ample time to prepare.
8. Now the most fun you can have before the wedding itself is without a doubt going to be during the stag-do and the hen-night. It’s usually the best man and the head bridesmaid who decide what these two events entail, but that’s not to say the bride and groom can’t have any input. Do whatever you’re going to enjoy, just try not to cause yourself or anyone else too much embarrassment. If they’re going to be the night before the wedding, don’t under any circumstances get drunk. The last thing you want to wake up to on your wedding day is a hangover.